When a person passes away from old age you expect and know what happens, we get old, we die. It's blunt but there is no words because that's what's supposed to happen when we have a wonderful life and get old. When a baby dies at birth it's totally different, how do you go on … Continue reading How Do You Tell Someone Your Baby Died?
Since becoming a mother and a bereaved one I feel that no one wants to understand what it's like to walk in our shoes and of course you don't, you don't want to know what it's like to have something every one else has got or have that missing piece cut out of your heart. … Continue reading “How are you?”
What's your purpose in life? Is it to survive in this world? Or is it to put food on the table, work are arses off for that holiday, house or new car? Provide for our family's? In life we aren't told what purpose is ours someone doesn't say to us your purpose is this and … Continue reading Having A Purpose
One of things I had planned in my mind was that I would be returning to work by March. Although it would have only been 4 months on I was determined I would be going back and leading a life of 'new normal' not only for me but to prove to myself and make my … Continue reading Returning to Work
Where do I start, there is actually no words to describe the pain. The pain of not having my baby by my side. How's your baby? Errrr 'I had a stillbirth' the words I've not wanted to say for such a long time ~ is it acceptance that Violet has gone? Yes.To help me through … Continue reading How’s your baby?
A post on society's actions whilst grieving & social media If you saw me in public what would you do? Would you say hi? Would you ignore me? Would you walk over and hug me? Would you cross the street to avoid me? Would you ask how I am?I know what I would do if … Continue reading To speak or not to speak
Happy International Women’s day to all the wonderful women out there YOU are AMAZING!Wether you are a baby girl, a young teen, a woman, a bereaved mother, a mother, a grandmother, a sister, an auntie, a great grandmother YOU are amazing! And it's time today to give yourself the appreciation you deserve! I want to … Continue reading Happy International Women’s Day
Hello to all you males, each and every single one of you wether you are a bereaved father a father or not a father.Today I bought our local paper, something caught my eye, a photo on the front page of a very smiley bald headed man who is one of our friends. The local paper … Continue reading Fathers, it’s ok to talk
As a parent you never imagine living a life without one of your children. I never imagined Violet not being here living a life with out her is a daily battle. From thinking what she would look like now at 3 and a half months, to hearing her laugh, if she would keep us all … Continue reading Living a Life Without
I was so nervous, I was so nervous about giving birth I don't know why as I'd built myself up for this day and prepared my mind with a variety of techniques, I'd done breathing excerises and hypnobirthing most of the way through my pregnancy which was meant to help. This went allll out the … Continue reading Giving Birth To Our Sleeping Beauty