“How are you?”

Since becoming a mother and a bereaved one I feel that no one wants to understand what it’s like to walk in our shoes and of course you don’t, you don’t want to know what it’s like to have something every one else has got or have that missing piece cut out of your heart. […]

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Having A Purpose

What’s your purpose in life? Is it to survive in this world? Or is it to put food on the table, work are arses off for that holiday, house or new car? Provide for our family’s? In life we aren’t told what purpose is ours someone doesn’t say to us your purpose is this and […]

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Returning to Work

One of things I had planned in my mind was that I would be returning to work by March. Although it would have only been 4 months on I was determined I would be going back and leading a life of ‘new normal’ not only for me but to prove to myself and make my […]

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How’s your baby?

Where do I start, there is actually no words to describe the pain. The pain of not having my baby by my side. How’s your baby? Errrr ‘I had a stillbirth’ the words I’ve not wanted to say for such a long time ~ is it acceptance that Violet has gone? Yes. To help me […]

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To speak or not to speak

A post on society’s actions whilst grieving & social media If you saw me in public what would you do? Would you say hi? Would you ignore me? Would you walk over and hug me? Would you cross the street to avoid me? Would you ask how I am? I know what I would do […]

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Happy International Women’s Day

Happy International Women’s day to all the wonderful women out there YOU are AMAZING! Wether you are a baby girl, a young teen, a woman, a bereaved mother, a mother, a grandmother, a sister, an auntie, a great grandmother YOU are amazing! And it’s time today to give yourself the appreciation you deserve! I want […]

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Fathers, it’s ok to talk

Hello to all you males, each and every single one of you wether you are a bereaved father a father or not a father. Today I bought our local paper, something caught my eye, a photo on the front page of a very smiley bald headed man who is one of our friends. The local […]

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‘Others’

For the ‘other’ people in my life Someone said to me recently ‘you always think of others’ your right I do I not only think about myself I think about every one else too. I put myself in there shoes and my own, I try to see it from both sides, from my side the […]

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That Funny Little Thing Called Grief

Coping with grief & the “not knowing how to approach it situation” the subject no one wants to talk about Grieving is something that happens no matter what when a loved one is lost, in our case our daughter. Something I hoped I would never have to feel and something which we will never just […]

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Every One Has An Opinion

Something I realised when I was pregnant that no matter who you spoke to everyone had an opinion, some good some bad. You’ll be sick all the time, you’ll get fat, you’ll be tired all the time, you should do it this way, you need to rest all the time, your doing too much, you […]

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