Happy 70th Birthday NHS

Happy 70th birthday NHS Although I am currently trying to change the testing for Group B Strep as they didn’t provide me with one or information whilst pregnant and signs for Sepsis. I wanted to say a big thank you to the NHS for providing me & my husband with the amazing midwives that looked […]

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How Do You Tell Someone Your Baby Died?

When a person passes away from old age you expect and know what happens, we get old, we die. It’s blunt but there is no words because that’s what’s supposed to happen when we have a wonderful life and get old. When a baby dies at birth it’s totally different, how do you go on […]

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“How are you?”

Since becoming a mother and a bereaved one I feel that no one wants to understand what it’s like to walk in our shoes and of course you don’t, you don’t want to know what it’s like to have something every one else has got or have that missing piece cut out of your heart. […]

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Having A Purpose

What’s your purpose in life? Is it to survive in this world? Or is it to put food on the table, work are arses off for that holiday, house or new car? Provide for our family’s? In life we aren’t told what purpose is ours someone doesn’t say to us your purpose is this and […]

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Returning to Work

One of things I had planned in my mind was that I would be returning to work by March. Although it would have only been 4 months on I was determined I would be going back and leading a life of ‘new normal’ not only for me but to prove to myself and make my […]

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How’s your baby?

Where do I start, there is actually no words to describe the pain. The pain of not having my baby by my side. How’s your baby? Errrr ‘I had a stillbirth’ the words I’ve not wanted to say for such a long time ~ is it acceptance that Violet has gone? Yes. To help me […]

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To speak or not to speak

A post on society’s actions whilst grieving & social media If you saw me in public what would you do? Would you say hi? Would you ignore me? Would you walk over and hug me? Would you cross the street to avoid me? Would you ask how I am? I know what I would do […]

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Happy International Women’s Day

Happy International Women’s day to all the wonderful women out there YOU are AMAZING! Wether you are a baby girl, a young teen, a woman, a bereaved mother, a mother, a grandmother, a sister, an auntie, a great grandmother YOU are amazing! And it’s time today to give yourself the appreciation you deserve! I want […]

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Fathers, it’s ok to talk

Hello to all you males, each and every single one of you wether you are a bereaved father a father or not a father. Today I bought our local paper, something caught my eye, a photo on the front page of a very smiley bald headed man who is one of our friends. The local […]

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Living a Life Without

As a parent you never imagine living a life without one of your children. I never imagined Violet not being here living a life with out her is a daily battle. From thinking what she would look like now at 3 and a half months, to hearing her laugh, if she would keep us all […]

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